Deb's thoughts

Thank you Superjaybrd, and I have to admit I wasn't sure I recognized your name so I looked at a some of your blogs and realized I had responded to a few of them but I missed one that made me laugh out loud.

It was the one titled "Desert Quiz" I picked Lemon Meringue. What did the psychiatrists say about me?

To quote your blog:
LEMON MERINGUE-- Smooth, sexy, & articulate with your hands,you are an excellent after-dinner speaker and a good teacher.

But don't try to
walk and chew gum at the same time.

A bit of a diva at times, but you
have many friends.

I couldn't have said it better myself!

Thank you for the birthday wishes and the laugh!

Thank you and I guess I'm ok then, cause my body still does what my mind tells it too, but under protest!

I don't know how old you are, but you were obviously taught to think and that is a very good thing, being able to see both sides is also a marvelous ability. What would your parents have done? Did you always agree with the punishments you received? As you matured, have your thoughts on the punishments you received changed?

My response: Thank you. My dad always taught me to see both sides, and not just judge on one side. I'm not really sure what my parents would have done in that kind of situation. They probably wouldn't have made me do that, just grounded me. And they would have talked to me a lot about my action, and about facts and insight from them and about others. But I guess everyone's parents are different, and have different methods of parenting. You know?

Yes. I've never really done much wrong in my life, but I knew deep inside that when I did get in trouble they were doing it for a good reason. At the time, it seemed like an unfair punishment and sometimes I disagreed with it, but now I realize it was to protect me from doing it again.

I guess I answered the last question in the question before.

Thanks for your comments :) You have a lot of insight, and wisdom. I like how you didn't just see the parent side of it, and say that I am completely wrong. To me, it seemed like you said what you said in a non biased way.

Gal4Christ, I started lifting weights about 7 or 8 yrs ago, and loved it. I felt so good and got such a sense of accomplishment from it, then I broke my leg, and never went back. I probably should start again. I actually think I have more energy than when I was 24, but then I had 2 little ones, so they wore me out. I weigh less than I did at 24 so that's a good thing.

MarvelousMarissa, I can't wait to read your blog, and you are right parents discipline to protect their kids from doing the wrong things twice. A good parent disciplines with love, not cruelty. They realize that their job is to teach this beautiful give from God, how to grow up and be a healthy, happy, productive human being. Of course, as parents and humans we make mistakes but as long as it's done with love - it usually works out. The parent that disciplines with anger and cruelty is always wrong.

Thank you for the birthday wish and I promise I will not be spending it home knitting. We are going dancing. Dancing is one of my favorite activities.

Mechany144, you are right, growing older is not bad at all. I'm a lot better at some things than when I was younger, and some things I appreciate a lot more, too!

What a beautiful thing to say, she is a lucky woman! I can see why you are still together after 30 years, and I wish you many more years of happiness!

By the way, my name is Tom. Since I call you Deb I figure you can call me Tom. Or anything else you want to!

We were already married at that time. She left her job and the kids went to live with her parents. Had one heck of a time getting the kids to leave Hawaii! Don't blame them though, when ever we visit her parents I have a hard time leaving also.
If you have never been there you have to go. That place will take 20 years off of ya!
We are a blessed marriage I think. Me a black man and Nia polynesian. Never paid much attention to race, we are all pink inside I always say.

Do not feel lonely. I am confused a good part of the time! LOL
I never got it either. I am from a little town in Alabama called Warrior. We did not have the race problems there that we have here. You would think it would be exactly opposite. Of course it was a farming town. We all depended on each other at harvest and planting times.
To this day I have relatives there. Living on and farming the land of their former owners descendants. They are now partners in the farm and have been for 140 years. It is a great place.

Ha ha! Warrior is just NW of Birmingham about 35 miles. It is just a wide spot in the road.
New Haven MO. would be a good comparison. Have family that lives there also. That was the fun part of being in the military. We would take trips to small towns in any place we were stationed. Alaska was real fun that way.
Small town America is interesting. We were accepted there more than the big cities.
When they found out I was in the USAF we were treated like hero's.