Its Not Easy Being Bad

I have a six year old step-daughter in California she attends a public school there.One day maybe a week ago she was playing on the monkey bars when another little girl pulled her off causing her to break her right wrist (which she writes with) my boyfriend rushed down to the school and took her to the doctor after fighting with that he contacted the school and told them what the doctors said and then kindly asked what was going to be done since our daughter had broke her arm the school replied nothing we are not responsible for that.Wait a minute not RESPONSIBLE for my CHILD while she is in your care???
This deeply angers me how is it that we send our kids the most important  people in our lives to a place we think to be safe? In fact some of us have to make our kids get up and go, it something we push are kids to finish yet they are not safe from harm?I thought schools were supposed to protect our children and keep them just as safe as we (parents) would. We have contacted the school district and even the superintendent of schools yet we have gotten no where with this matter.
Yesterday my child had to go in for surgery to have her wrist re broke and set with pins and rods because it was not healing right. I believe now we are going to have to go after the parents of the other girl for all the medical cost since the school is denying any responsibility  what a shame that schools today are not willing to protect  our kids! Just something to think about when sending your child to school on Monday.

I thought of something that kind of bothers me about sex and violence on TV in video games movies and music.

Where does the responsibility lay?

I think that you must always start in the home as parents we need to better educate our kids on what’s real and what’s not.

I am step parent of a six year old child she is very smart and there are things we allow her to do and not do she is pretty good about fallowing the rules set for her so I really have no problem with her playing video games such as soulcalabor she is old enough to understand that they are just games and when people in real life act like that then they go to jail.
As far as movies TV and music go she is free to watch what she pleases if we find something that we feel she shouldn’t be watching we ask her to turn away from it if there are any questions we make sure to talk to her about why she is not able to watch the program and she under stands we have an open relationship with her the best we can with out being too informative about things she won’t under stand or things that are just not age appropriate.

There are also many other ways to keep you children away from such things now days like there are TV ratings when a program begins there are letter rating at the top of the page
There are also prenatal adversaries on cds and movies also are rated as well as video games.

So why do people blame the industry for things that could have been prevented in the home your children act as you do they see what you do and the learn form what you do it is the parents jobs to talk to their kids and help understand the actions of their consequences. Right?

I just started a new job. Its great the people are great it’s a fun place filled with fun people so you may ask what’s the problem?

I am a waitress at a small local restaurant so when someone is out on the floor they buss as well some people leave tips and some don’t that’s fine with me because its not the tips its about making the guest feel comfortable and wanting to return for the service we offer. (At least that’s how I feel)

The other day I was working my first morning shift where I encountered an older woman who instead of introducing herself to me said rudely “ I don’t know why they put another person on I can do this by myself” meaning she could buss tables and be in the back washing dishes, I looked at her with an whatever face and went happily on my way then she added “ I need to make five dollars today ” Which tells me it all about the money for her not about costumer service. So I thought to myself she must have been having a bad day.

Right then my boss said that she had some thing to show me on the line that she wanted me to hop back and forth, which is fine with me who wants to do the same things over and over all day long.

I do have to say I was keeping up pretty well after a while the older woman came from the back and started to bussing too the problem here was she only cleared tables and wasn’t wiping them down but hey I am not complaining. …Until she took a tip off one of the tables. How do you know that you may as?

Well let me break it down to you I was clearing a table of plates and the guest already had the tip laying on the table for me but I didn’t take it right then because I feel its rude to remove the tips while the guest are still seated.

As soon as I noticed they had left I went right over and cleared the said table of the glasses but noticed that the tip was gone and plus I saw her go over there. I brought this up with my manger and she relived me of my hopping duty so that wouldn’t happen again I ended the day with eighteen dollars in tips.

The next day I went in at the same time in the morning I was again working with the older woman but different mangers. I started my day out washing dishes and she got to buss which was ok with me I was glad to do something new well about half of the shift was over and we were switched well she went to the register and I went to buss that was fine with me I am glad to do it plus the tips do help.

I had a party come in and they were pretty big they were there for most of my bussing shift. They were leaving and the older woman came from behind the counter and went over to their table they were talking for a minute and the party left well as the older woman was walking away I saw she had one of her hands closed which led me to believe that the party tipped her.
So I thought about it I didn’t want to look greedy or anything like that but I earned that tip myself with no help so after arguing with myself I finally went to the manger I worked with the previous day and told her that I thought she took my tip again I couldn’t be sure because I never saw the money go in to her hand but the way she walked away and how it all happened led to believe this. well my manger said ok let me go talk to the other two mangers and we will see what happens I said ok well then I thought about it what if I was all wrong and there was no tip and maybe it was my lack of trust in her for what had happened the day before either way I went back to my manger and said “ I can’t be sure if that was what really happened but if she (the older woman) is stationed to a spot then that’s were she needs to stay is in her spot doing what she is supposed to do not out by my tables” the manger agreed and we went on she to talk to the other 2 mangers and me back to work.
Well a while later near the very end of my shift another manger a girl sat me down and asked me what had happened I told her everything about the day before and everything in between. I told her what the older woman said about have another person on when she was able to do everything herself and how the day before she took a tip from my table and not even cleared the table I sang like a bird. Because I was frustrated and hurt that some one could do that to a co-worker, a team member, another person to me that is stealing.
The manger told that it has been on going problem with the older woman and that she has done it once before and that they were either going to write her up and keep a better eye on her or stop her completing from bussing. This manger also informed me that all the mangers (there’s three) like me because they don’t have to babysit me I come in do my job and do what needs to be done with no questions and they wouldn’t want to loose me because of some else’s ignorance (that made me feel good)
So my questions is to you guys are:
Was I wrong for standing for myself?
When you go out to eat if you tip who is the tip intended for?
What should do now?
Thanks in advance and sorry this was so long