andyandeye's Blog

Sometimes it just helps to vent.
Sometimes it takes something like that to reevaluate our own situations.
Have a GOOD day!

Superjay who is that strange looking guy above you..... he looks like someone I have seen before......

Eye... I see similar situations in the schools everyday.... It is a total shame that parents put themselves before their kids..... He is immature and probably always will be.... Hopefully she will remedy the situation.... It's up to her......

This is a good place to vent. She cannot be helped until she wants help(not a hand out supplimenting the real issue), but then has to be dedicated to go the distance. Sounds like she is up to waist in this mess and with kids in the middle there is no fast easy solution without income. Just be a good friend and be there to hold her back when she starts to fall. Be carefull (like you said; you can't take on more people in your household), theres a fine line between support and enabling a situation that will not get better without personal commitment.
Hope she gets it straitened out. Take it easy on yourself, careing is more than many people are capable of.

I hadn't felt like being a trouble-maker in a while.. ;-)

Eye...your a caring good person, but be careful. Situations like that can sure get you caught in the middle. Seems people always try to put someone in the middle that cares and make their problems ..your problems. Right now take care of yourself and let the grandparents handle the problems....thats what they're suppose to be there for. If he's making that kind of money..all she has to do is have it direct deposited and give him an allowance. I too see too much of this and know how hard it is to turn a blind eye so to speak...but before there will be a change....him and her both need to want a change. But thank God that there are still people like you who worried about neighbors.

She has to make up her mind she wants a different way of life....at that point she will need all the friends, family and support she can get to......Do the Right Thing..!

eye,I'm glad she brought a family member to help. Maybe her father in-law will see exactly what kind of a son he has. She needs to remember though that blood is always thicker then water. Her husband knows he has a slave at home and that she's trapped. It makes it easy for his other lifestyle. You can sure bet there's another woman in the picture. I have known other women in her situation not to mention i've been there.

the burden of your neighbor isn't yours however you've already helped her in that you were there for her to lean on when she needed someone. i doubt that her husband's behavior just happened over night. she's probably been the victim of this sort of abuse for a very long time. unfortunately SHE's the one who has to make the ultimate decision that "enough is enough". until she does, this could go on and on. perhaps by talking to you, she's one step closer to realizing just how important SHE really is as a person, and that both she and her children deserve better from life.