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I know... it's been a while since I last blogged. But I wanted to share some background information on my Fox files tonight.  I went to Vandalia womens prison to do a story on pregnant inmates.  These are women who are pregnant when a judge sends them to prison.  What happens to these babies when it's time for the mothers to deliver?  They are forced to hand them over to either family members, adoptive parents or to foster care.  I was amazed at the program offered to these women from members of the Mennonite church.  They will take these babies and raise them until the mothers get out of prison.  They bring the children to see the mother at least once a month.  They also pay for their care.  I was also saddened to see the visiting area at the prison.  The prison encourages family visits and has a very nice area for those visits.  The sad part is seeing all of the toys, baby seats and pictures made by children for their moms who are prison.  You realize the impact of crime on these innocent victims. 

 

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rosie read my blog view my photos
Jul 21, 2008 | 9:10 PM

for what ever reason, if these women arent going to change, they shouldnt get those babies back.. the mennonites are good people. those babies are being well taken care of..i wonder how many of these women were put in on drug charges, and the babies are born addicted, that should be a good reason for them never to see them again.

BlueBrained read my blog view my photos
Jul 21, 2008 | 9:58 PM

What did the lady featured tonight do to violate her probation?

TimmyB
Jul 21, 2008 | 10:22 PM

The woman featured in this story kind of gave me the impression that she would not have commited the crime if she knew she was going to have a baby. But what about her three previous children mentioned? Shouldnt that have been enough reason to not break the law. She is just using her prgnancy as a "poor me" excuse. She clearly does not have any concern for others. I can't believe Fox news would air this kind of trash.

mr_wildflower read my blog view my photos
Jul 21, 2008 | 10:52 PM

Children are collateral damage when one goes to prison...... I have mixed emotions about kids visiting parents in prison..... I wonder if growing up making visits to their parents they might get a sense of that prison is not that bad....

Gal4Christ read my blog view my photos
Jul 21, 2008 | 11:33 PM

It's heartbreaking to hear about this and I know the children pay for their mistakes too and that's the sad part.

blogsiren read my blog view my photos
Jul 22, 2008 | 12:35 AM

EVERY SINGLE CHILD is affected by abandonment. ALL CHILDREN are lost if they are not treated with the basics of child development.
Why do we trust the very people that create the problems, to care for the children of the victims? What a mystery....what a misery...

michelle4wellness read my blog view my photos
Jul 22, 2008 | 6:20 AM

Oh Mandy....how sad! It makes me just want to grab my children and hug them. God bless the Mennonite women who look after these babies.

ladytbonesteak read my blog view my photos
Jul 22, 2008 | 9:08 AM

This girl didnt have a place to stay to abide by her probation...so it was revoked and the judge gave her nine years in jail.

That's awful. The interview indicated that this was her fourth child...where were they living??

This is a sad case any way you look at it!

cenlow31
Jul 22, 2008 | 10:11 AM

Oh boo-hoo. Please do not ask me to feel sorry for anyone that can't stay out of jail. It's not difficult. If you're that concerned about the welfare of your children, try not getting yourself thrown in jail in the first place. I suppose if they do ever start allowing these women to keep their newborns with them longer, then we as tax payers will get to bear the cost of that burden too.

asmerelda read my blog view my photos
Jul 22, 2008 | 11:24 AM

WOW what a sad story

I can't even imagine having to visit a mother in prison or even being pregnant and give birth and then give your baby up till you get out if you ever get out. I breast fed both my children so I guess that is not even an option to those mothers. My baby girls never had a bottle!

Sparkleplenty read my blog
Jul 22, 2008 | 11:41 AM

Mandy, thanks for covering that story. I really appreciate you caring about others that much, or at least trying to show what is going on in the world.

I heard of a story where a woman was in prison, and there was a guy in the next cell for battery i think it was. His child came in with the mother to clear up payment of checks for their business and it was so confusing for the child to comprehend why daddy was not coming home. I think the child was extremely young, maybe 5 or so, and the child was distraught. The father in prison tried to console her, but the child kept asking daddy why he was in there and when he was coming home.

I can understand difficult situations where people don't have a choice but to bring their child to prison, but I agree that a child that young should never even see the inside of a prison.

I heard another story of a pregnant woman in prison, and she didn't even want anyone to know she was pregnant. She wouldn't talk about it, understandably.

What concerns me is sanitary conditions of these places and anyone being exposed to some of them. I heard that some are so loaded with human excrement and urine, it gets all over people's hands just touching the bed. I agree that a prisoner does not deserve a plush place to live, but we don't have the right to make them sick in the process.

How wonderful of the Mennonites to care for the children, and I pray the prisoners someday have a better life, because I don't think anyone ever has the goal of going to prison. I think life puts them in situations where they do stupid stuff just

Sparkleplenty read my blog
Jul 22, 2008 | 11:45 AM

to survive or they have the wrong set of morals because nobody ever taught them the difference between right or wrong, or temptations were too great to walk away.

I hope that prisoners are not mistreated, abusing a prisoner hardens them and makes them go out and do it again.

Like children, if we can just catch them doing something right and praise them for it, they might build self esteem that changes their life.

Thanks again, and Mandy I can see you have been working very hard! Great job.

mydialogue read my blog
Jul 22, 2008 | 11:46 AM

The young lady featured in this story claimed she wouldn't have done this if she would have known...but it was mentioned that her firsst child was born in prison, so personally she has not learned any valuable lessons. What's worse, a child being raised by OTHER family members who can stay out of trouble, or a child being raised by a MOTHER who is showing them how to live a troubled life? I'm a single mother of two boys in East St. Louis. My boys are have been motivation enough for me to go back to school, get my teaching degree, and stay away from trouble. Obviously her kids haven't motivated her to do the right thing.

ladymist8064 read my blog
Jul 22, 2008 | 12:02 PM

I feel sorry for the children, who must indure the stigma of a mother in prison. I have less sympathy for the mother. The child did not CHOOSE to be in this position. The mother made her CHOICE...........Ladymist8064

Babujai read my blog view my photos
Jul 22, 2008 | 2:40 PM

A judge decided that a woman with children that didn't have someplace to live deserved to be in jail??? She even told the judge she was having issues finding a place to live! What kind of resources did the judge direct her to? What about her probation officer?

I've been pregnant and homeless and unemployed...all at the same time. Depression was my constant companion. I can't imagine what this woman went through with 3 kids and one on the way...probably scrambling to settle down some place just so she wouldn't be separated from her kids.

God love her and keep her.

Bee1 read my blog
Jul 22, 2008 | 4:11 PM

we never know what someone is going through, until we have been through it, some times people are let astray, however I feel so sorry for the children

IneedUrHelp read my blog
Jul 23, 2008 | 12:45 PM

Violent crime offenders should not be given any contact with their baby after its born. Why the heck would we want to put a baby near a violent loser? Don’t we have something called child welfare that’s supposed to keep kids away from parents who are considered dangerous? If we (the public) have to take care of the baby, then the criminal should have no claim to it. And if these women are allowed to be with their baby, they must not be considered too much of a threat to the public, so why jail them? Jail should be for those who are a danger to the public. Time we came up with more than just a punishment of jail for non-violent criminals. I’m for letting the “soft” criminals take care of their responsibilities while they do something to atone for their crime. Depending on the crime and the criminal’s abilities, give them a punishment that is proactive and maybe teaches them something valuable as they continue to deal with their responsibilities. Make them clean bed pans at a mental institution or hosp, cook or serve at a homeless shelter, clean up non profit organization buildings, assist with trash pick up along the highway. Non-violent criminals and their families don’t need to be supported by the public as “punishment” for their actions. If they don’t do the job punishment, then put them in jail and take their kid(s) away. Let them know losing their kids will be part of the jail punishment.

Why don’t you do a report on the juvenile detention center? Bet you can find some real interesting things that go on there between the guards, judges, and so-called DJO

IneedUrHelp read my blog
Jul 23, 2008 | 12:45 PM

officers. They don’t encourage parent involvement so why are the prisons so keen on wanting to keep the family together? Is that supposed to be good for the baby or the prisoner, but its not good for a juvenile and parent?

laheyslilfarm view my photos
Jul 23, 2008 | 4:12 PM

So because she did not have a place to live be violated her probation and you people are telling her she has no rights to her children -How sad

Cheetah read my blog
Jul 23, 2008 | 8:38 PM

I may be naive but the piece brought home another reality [shock] for me -- that so many women are convicted felons. This may sound patronizing or brown-nosing -- yet it's not intended either way..

Most women are [or seem to be] so level-headed and grounded and -- dare I say it -- immune from the mindset that commits crimes including crimes against others, and seeing that piece -- all those women -- 100% of them, and so many women, who've walked on not only the other side of the law, but served their own interests at others' expense.

I'm just old school, what can I say. It was a shock to realize there are probably almost as many women in prisons as there are men.

As for the story itself, the Mennonite church is to be commended. But I am torn as to whether or not a baby or infant or child under age 18 should be allowed to visit their parent in prison -- if that were a rule, would it be a potential deterrant? When convicts have it too good on the inside, jail functions not unlike a 24 x 7 resort. What kind of anti-crime message does that send?

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MandyMurphey

I'm the anchor for Fox 2 News at 5 and 9. I've been with KTVI for 17 years starting as the Contact 2 reporter. I am the mother of two daughters ages 8 and 2.

Member Since: 9/13/2006