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by MamaGoose715 from St.Louis, Mo.

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Thinking about Shawn...
Oct 10, 2007 | 9:54 PM
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Okay, I tried to not say anything on this subject, but it's driving me nuts.

This afternoon, I watched Channel 4 News (sorry Fox2, I missed yours at 11)

Anyway, they were talking to Pam Akers about all of this. My heart goes out to Shawn and Ben and Bens Family, and I was really feeling sorry for the Akers. I kept thinking to myself " My God, the media needs to leave these people alone and let them get on with thier lives the best they can."

THEN I hear Pam say that they will be going out of town to be on some sort of news program and that they are now open for a movie or book deal.

Now if this was MY child. There is no way  I would agree to a movie or book deal for any amount of money. I couldn't deal with the fact that there is a movie or book out there sharing the sickening, perverted, things that my baby had to endure by this monster.

I feel that if Shawn wants to write a book or movie when he is an adult and has healed from this with many years of counseling, then so be it. Shawn has been through a life altering ordeal and is STILL a child. I hope they think about it long and hard before they agree to something that could inhibit Shawns healing or possibly something that may haunt him in his adult life.

What are your thoughts?

God be with Shawn, Ben and thier families.

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Cuteypops read my blog view my photos
Oct 10, 2007 | 11:07 PM

Well Mommagoose, you knew that this would eventually come about. I just hope it is done tastefully. Shawn will never ever heal completely with what has happened to him. He will just learn to cope with it. Trust will be a major issue for him, amoung other things. Lets just all pray that Shawn & Ben both learn to have peace of mind and that good things will come to them in life.
LadyCardFan read my blog view my photos
Oct 10, 2007 | 11:23 PM

Mommagoose, coming from a parent of a child who was assaulted I think the book/movie deal would be a positive. No, they would not show all the gorey details, but they would be able to better educate about child abduction and sexual assault. Remember John Walsh? What a brave and courageous soul. He is not rediculed for being out there after the bad guys, for his book and movie. He lost his son, but Pam has hers back. Her life is her family and her foundation named for her son. Battling for the safe return of abducted children.

I support her in her decision. This could actually be healing for Shawn. Knowing that his experience may save another child from just such an experience. Bringing other children home.

Cutey, you are correct that trust is a major issue. My son taught me that. He had so much trouble, even in the military, with trust. If a male became over zealous with him he had issues with it. Cost him a lot of jobs due to his lack of feeling secure.
MamaGoose715 read my blog view my photos
Oct 11, 2007 | 12:05 AM

LadyCardFan, I completely understand how a parent feels when there child is molested. One of my children was molested at the age of 3. It was very brutal and still haunts him to this day, into his adult hood. He and I have talked alot about this case and he said he would hate for the whole world t know the "details" of what happened. He like your son has major issues with trust and is VERY stand offish with men. He says even though none of it was his fault, he still at times feels severe embarressment (sp).
I hope your right and if they decide on a book or movie deal, that it will help Shawn heal.
How do we know that a book or a movie won't go into details? Seems like just about everything these days is pretty violent and sexual in nature.
Regardless, my heart goes out to the victims and families. I pray they someday have peace.
LadyCardFan read my blog view my photos
Oct 11, 2007 | 12:41 AM

Yes, we don't know. These kinds of movies usually aren't too bad . . . thinking Lifetime type movies, not big screen or HBO type.

I guess we have to trust that the family will have some control.

I'm sorry about your son.

My son isn't standoffish, but can feel threatened more easily by a male supervisor than most. He works now for a woman and is on his own most of the time driving the car hauler. But he can come to my work and lead one of the best groups that we've ever had. His skill has gotten the attention of another great lady in California who wants to see him be able to fulfill his dreams of helping others.

I agree, my heart does too.
LadyCardFan read my blog view my photos
Oct 11, 2007 | 12:42 AM

Sorry mommagoose, I read you previous response incorrectly. You were referring to your son. I apologize.
MamaGoose715 read my blog view my photos
Oct 11, 2007 | 12:50 AM

LCF,
Your Son has come a long way to be able to be able to lead a group. Bless his heart. I would love to talk with you about maybe attending a group dealing in this subject. Maybe my son would be willing to come with me. He still has alot of healing to do, and I constantly think about the shoulda , coulda, woulda's and beating myself up for trusting a family friend with my child.
Please email with info about the group if there are any openings, I would very much appreciate it. Or if ya just want to talk, I'm here.

luvmamagoose@yahoo.com
momof5 read my blog view my photos
Oct 11, 2007 | 7:09 AM

i sure wouldnt want details of my childest biggest nightmare open to the public! i think its one thing to tell the story, its another to spill the details.. He is still a child and children tease children.
LadyCardFan read my blog view my photos
Oct 11, 2007 | 7:57 AM

MommaGoose,

We currently don't have that type of meeting (group), but I would be willing to develop one. I'll do some research on this topic and post to you when I have more info. I know there are groups for the parents/spouses of assault victims in other states. Most are willing to share their info. I know there are lots of us out there who need some support in dealing with the anger and pain we all feel.
LadyCardFan read my blog view my photos
Oct 11, 2007 | 8:01 AM

momof5,

You are so correct when you state that Children tease Children. This was one of the big problems down in Ellsinore when the kids that went to the Basketball camp were sexually assaulted. Not only did town become divided, but when one of the school teams would play another team, players from the other team would tease the kids from that school. There were several fist fights that broke out during games. This school was considering cancelling all games for this year of all teams due to the hostilities the kids from other schools were showing.

I find that so very sad.
momof5 read my blog view my photos
Oct 11, 2007 | 9:11 AM

LCF, im sorry to hear about your son. Kids are mean, always have been, always will be. (not all) but thats life. It is very sad!!

btw, typo up there..meant "childs"
sarcasticdragon
Oct 11, 2007 | 11:07 AM

I'll get some angry posts on this but here is goes anyway..

Everyone, including myself, was praying so hard that the boys wouldnt have to sit in front of a crowd of people and tell their horrible stories.

Then everyone, including me, was so happy that he pleaded guilty and spared the boys the pain of testifying.

But if they turn around and tell all to a money hungry movie directer just to make a quick buck I personally will be pretty angry that I wasted my prayers on them.
sarcasticdragon
Oct 11, 2007 | 11:10 AM

Ok I was being harsh.

A movie just for teens and kids that warned them about strangers and such would be ok.
Mommy2 read my blog view my photos
Oct 11, 2007 | 11:25 AM

I do not believe a movie should be made, its bad enough they have to live the rest of thier lives with this (i say they because of ben the movie at some point would have to add him too) and i dont think bens parents would agree to it. A movie being made will remind them over and over and over.
shogun_shaman read my blog view my photos
Oct 11, 2007 | 2:49 PM

Fame and fortune are very seductive, regardless of the grizzly details leading up to that fame. I, for one, do not want to know the details of the abductions, torture and horror that those two boys went through. I was relieved when they didn't have to endure a lengthy trial in which they'd have to relive those moments. How dare they consider book and movie deals so soon! They are the parents... They are the ones who need to say NO!! I agree that later, when the boys have grown and matured, that a book wouldn't be unreasonable. For god's sake, PLEASE, leave them alone and let them heal!
baicas read my blog
Oct 11, 2007 | 5:12 PM

Shawn will never have a normal life. Everywhere he will go people will remember his name, because it was in the news for so long, I say let him profit money wise for this, so he can live a life without worries on how to make a living, because there is always going to be some wiseguy out with no symphaty making the victim feel like dirt. Let him have enough money so he won't have to deal with these jerks.
AMOM read my blog
Oct 11, 2007 | 5:32 PM

I agree with ladycardfan. This problem must be kept in front of the public, never let it drop.

The more informed, and aware of these devils, the safer the children. I hope that both Shawn and Ben get millions of dollars for this story. They deserve every penny, but it will never be worth what they gave up, their life.

I have noticed a personility trait among sex abusers. They seem to spend their time trying to make others think they are a really nice person.

They are pretty good at fooling the public.

They try really hard to hide their true-self.

Look a John Gazey, he was playing clown for parties for children. I had some business dealing with one, of course, I didn't know it at the time.

That person was so kind and really stepping back and saying, "Oh I'm sorry." Opening the door for others, trying to remain in the back ground.
Carebear326
Oct 11, 2007 | 9:44 PM

We don't know yet what kind of movie or book that will be made. It could be outlining the affects a child kidnapped had on the parents and rest of the family. I am sure that these parents will do their best to protect the identity (if possible) of these two children, but even at that, it seems a lot of people are jumping to conclusions that it is going to outline the gory details of how these kids were abused. I tend to think these parents will be in charge to make sure that whatever side of this nightmare is portrayed that it is done in good taste and for the best educational purposes.
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