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Independent Women
Jan 11, 2008 | 10:48 AM
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I’m approaching the age where my friends and I are searching for "real jobs.”  It’s a major shift in my life and really quite weird to tell you the truth. 

 

 I think back to the days when my mom was my age and many kids got married fresh out of high school.  A lot of the women skipped college or dropped out early to have the babies and stay at home to be “domestic.”  These days, the vast majority of women are acquiring higher educations, and taking over what used to be considered men’s positions in the business world. 

 

 I recently found out some interesting info…many of my girl friends don’t even have a strong desire for marriage anymore, at least not any time soon.  They spend so much time and money on their education that they want to have a career and make it on their own without having to depend on a man.

 

 

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mr_wildflower read my blog view my photos
Jan 11, 2008 | 10:58 AM

You still need us.... And we will always need you.....

The terms are just different these days...
Speedy62269 read my blog
Jan 11, 2008 | 12:02 PM

Jen - my prediction is...you'll be married at age 27. Enjoy the beginning of a prosperous career and at 27 - wedding bells are a ringin'!
cmirasec read my blog
Jan 11, 2008 | 12:52 PM

Getting independent is good ..... many options after that ..... but don't be lonely .....
TheShan2007 read my blog
Jan 11, 2008 | 1:44 PM

Not sure what the point was, but do what you want NOW, because when you get married and have children it's not all about you anymore. Even though some women THINK it still is. Those are the ones, however, who end up divorced and have daycares raise their children.
TheShan2007 read my blog
Jan 11, 2008 | 1:48 PM

By the way Jen, being dependant on your spouse isn't a bad thing. In fact men are dependant on their wives as much as the wives are dependant on their husbands. It's calle marriage. Teamwork. You become one. You may think now that a stay at home mom has to depend on her husband's money. But the truth is it's THEIR money. And a husband most DEFINATELY had to depend on his wife to take care of their children when he's not around. God mad man and woman with different talents and abilitites. It is perfectly lovely for them to depend on one another.
Cuteypops read my blog view my photos
Jan 11, 2008 | 2:38 PM

Jen don't ever let yourself be dependant on a man. You may never know when that man will be gone. Then what are you left with? Being independant is extremely important in your life. Just don't let your independance make you miss out on the good things in life. jmo
horseshoer read my blog view my photos
Jan 11, 2008 | 9:51 PM

Nothing wrong with being independent...but nothing wrong with being married and having a family too. We were married way young and made it. Yet we both were and are still independent and doing what we want. In my opinon too much is focused on career and making big money , that some of the younger folks will miss out on alot of what we did at that age, even tho times are different. So take time to choose which road you want to travel in life....but also don't be afraid to head in another direction later on. Hey look at me....i'm still playing cowboy and loving every minute of it.
connie3212 read my blog view my photos
Jan 11, 2008 | 10:33 PM

I am a stay at home mom plus I work at home. I know that taking care of a house, 3 kids is work but I mean I get a paycheck as well. I do medical transcription. It is hard to juggle a house, kids and also working from home. I consider myself independent even though I am married. I have been married since 1999, first baby 2002, second baby 2004 and last baby 2006....I wouldn't change it for the world. Oh don't get me wrong, I daydream a lot, but there is nothing wrong with that.

You do what you feel is right and what is in your heart. Go for it woman, if you want a career and not get married for a long time then more power to you. It seems like more and more these days, women are waiting to get married and really waiting to have children. (I think I am babbling now) LOL
stephan read my blog view my photos
Jan 12, 2008 | 12:01 AM

Thats great Jen! Bravo! The world needs more inependant women and less gold diggers. Its gotten to the point where dating is all about money. Make it big and be a positive role model for others.
Danno3070 read my blog view my photos
Jan 12, 2008 | 6:27 AM

I'm dependent on my wife and she is dependent on me not so much for money, it's more of a emotional thing. We rely on each other for support, plus she's my best friend. If you met the right one it's not bad to be dependent on someone. The key is meeting the right one.
connie3212 read my blog view my photos
Jan 12, 2008 | 9:32 AM

Good point Danno. How is your wife feeling by the way? Are you still getting her pregnancy pains?
old_as_the_superbowl read my blog view my photos
Jan 12, 2008 | 4:11 PM

Ditto Cuteypops : )
hoghd23 read my blog view my photos
Jan 12, 2008 | 9:06 PM

Why marry??? so many youngans are already playing house! Why commit?
stinkabinka read my blog
Jan 12, 2008 | 9:13 PM

well i got married right out of school and would not trade my life with any career minded independent woman. do not know what i would do without my hubby. i now have a job but miss my days as a stay at home mom. i think that is wrong with society today. you have kids and cannot wait to get back to work. pawn your kids off on daycare. no time for family. why bother getting married at all and do not bother to have children.
kurkel read my blog view my photos
Jan 13, 2008 | 4:41 AM

I dont totally agree....I think it is what group you know, or who you hang around. Tho there probably is a strong group of those who do what you said...
I know a fairly large group of young women who have gone to college but are already married , having kids and being stay at home Moms (and loving it by the way!)
I do think it is wise to be able to support yourself if need be. But there is ALOT to be said for the important role of Mom and Mom being at home (if and when possible of course)
LindenwoodJen read my blog
Jan 13, 2008 | 11:21 AM

I'm with you stinkabinka - I'm excited to be a stay at home mom, not for a couple more years though.
freeDomOne
Jan 13, 2008 | 10:00 PM

To each their own....

Personally, I agee that you should develop your career first, then think about developing your family. The truth, about women in the business world, is that it is hard to be a mom and a professional. If you want to succeed, focus on you first, then when you are ready, focus on the family. Once a family is formed there will be a lot of personal sacrifices.

Not to offend, I believe a stay at home mom is a hard job (if you add in all the other household responsibilities as well). Stinkabinka -- there is nothing wrong with society. It is ok for a woman to be a professional, to be successful, to be her own person and not Mrs. so and so. A working mother can still offer her child stability, support, and a proper up bringing. I will not say it is EASY, but what is?
gemcarco
Jan 14, 2008 | 7:18 AM

Would like you to expand on your last sentence. What would happen to our country if the majority of women followed this practice?
MIKE-FROM-IL read my blog view my photos
Jan 14, 2008 | 7:23 AM

Ever since the burning of the bras in the late 60s and early 70s women have demonstrated their independence. And it's a good thing. When one human is dependent on another there is bound to be conflict in a commercial society like we are today. I don't know when your parents were born but I was born in 55 and there was not as much t.v women stayed home with the kids than in 64 they gave those that did'nt work a little more raiseing our taxs making it so women had to work. And thats where it's at today very few women can be a stay at home without the family suffering..
thumpaliver read my blog
Jan 14, 2008 | 4:06 PM

If you're not planning on making a life-long career of working and are anticipating becoming
a stay-at-home-mom, then leave the "real jobs" for those who are planning on working all their lives.

I have to laugh when I see women complain about the dangers of becoming dependent on a man "because you never know when he'll be gone" or some other such tripe.

I've seen way too many people who instead depended on some job be kicked to the curb just as they approached being vested in the retirement plan or as they threatened to start having an increase in their health insurance claims or whatever.

If you pick bad spouses, you'll have trouble with your dependence on a man. If you're any good at it, you won't. If you're bad at it the way nature's intended things is you'll have a bad family. The family is the thing which is supposed to nurture your offspring and make them fit to go out and find good mates and thrive in families. If you're no good at picking mates, your offspring are less likely to survive and thrive or become attractive mates to anyone else, and they should be steered clear of.

That's hysteresis--the maintenance of the successful model of living for human beings.

It's always amusing to hear people who haven't walked in the other fellow's shoes pontificating on how easy he's got it. Actually, it's usually just a case of the fact that the sensationalist media isn't out there singing that guy's blues for him because there's nothing new about a man having a tough day on the job trying to get what his family needs for him to get them. There's nothing n
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